Communicating Honestly

Most people suck at communicating—and I'm one of them.

I get passionate about this issue because, really, it's such an simple thing to change. Reordering a few words, pulling a few out, and generally saying less can have a profound impact—but then, why is it so hard?

Because it's hard to be honest, and it's hard to hear honesty.

I'm a perfect example of this.

I make elaborate fabrications to sound well-informed when, really, I don't have a clue what's going on. It would be better to admit I'm clueless and move on. But, I could lose my contract, or my credibility! Who would want to work with me!? Well, personally, I would rather work with someone like that . And I can't be the only one.

I get defensive. I don't like being put on the spot, I'm sure you can relate. And I'll come up with some fancy excuse for why I "can't hang out", "can't meet my deadline", or "won't share my source code." This might work for a short while, but I always have the sneaking suspicion that it will catch up to me.

I water down. Do you ever say something and then instantly regret it? I do this all the time. And then in order to cover it up you say all kinds of clever stuff to try and paint it in nicer light. Not cool. Stop it.

Yes, it's hard to say what you actually mean. But it's really the only option. The time lost while confusing people is expensive. During a booming economy, that might be overlooked. During an recession, watch out.